The point in this case is the fact that very kind, and generally responsible adults will let things and people fall between the cracks.
In my life I have noticed that it happens when there is something seemingly small, something that is not very visible or pressing (sometimes it is something that I am emotionally disinclined towards) that I ignore.
I would like to give a small example. I told Jo that I was going to make her a mixed tape of some of my favorites songs. I put it off so long that people don't even make mixed tapes any more, some people don't even know what they are. And with out a word of apology or anything, I hope that it becomes forgotten. Why do I act this way, hoping that it is forgotten? It is because I am embarrassed that it has gone on so long. I am ashamed that I didn't keep my word. To make the tape now would bring to light my disrespect and irresponsibility.
There is another thing that I would like to say about this. How can a community of self- declared lovers, carers, i. e. Christ followers let people be miss treated, ignored, over used, disrespected, and forgotten? I think it is because each person deceives themselves into thinking that the other person will take care of it. I see needs but don't do anything because I assume that someone else will take care of it. All I need to do is engage in some communication, ask someone about it.
Or if I am having trouble getting the mixed tape done, "Just call Jo and tell her. She wont mind," I tell myself. Other wise she might forget or might remember and rightly feel disrespected.
It usually takes two seconds and a butt load of initiative. Or don't make the promise in the first place, or don't claim to be a Lover.
Man, what is the deal? I need to start changing if I care anything about love. I am sorry I have disrespected, I am sorry I haven't loved, mostly out of laziness, fear, insecurity and the like.
